How Master Manipulators Conceal Their Intentions

You may have experienced someone’s seemingly inauthentic ways of being overly likable and kind. Though there was nothing wrong with the actions they took and the words they said, your intuition told you not to trust them. The scariest thing about the most skillful, and sociopathic, manipulators, is that there often seems to be nothing explicitly wrong with the actions they take and the words they say. A lesson any conscious, and skilled, manipulator learns early on, is one of always concealing their intentions. Being inconspicuous is a defining part of being manipulative. It is for this basic reason that all...

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How to Grow Ideas Into Behavior Change – The Plant Metaphor

The title of this article may attract people with malicious intentions. Therefore a disclaimer is warranted: This article is written solely for the spread of positive thinking. Let’s get started. A simple way of giving birth to ideas in people’s minds, and enticing them to behave in a certain way, is to keep the metaphor of a seed growing into a mighty plant in mind. The seed represents your ideas themselves. The plant represents others’ actions driven by the ideas which you’ve planted. When attempting to entice others to commit to your ideas through action, the only sensible way to be successful is...

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Why You Shouldn’t Be Quick to Use Commanding Statements

You’ll find yourself in a position of being in charge of leading others. You can be given the responsibility to lead the effort of replacing the floors in your home, after being labelled the best handyman around. You can be assigned the responsibility to lead a work-group at the office, since the work at hand deals directly with what you’re most knowledgeable about. You don’t have to set yourself apart as a leader in order to be given leadership duties in various aspects of life. Leadership skills are built quicker when you find yourself in leadership roles without experience....

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Being simple gives space for others to show you their true selves.

How to Gauge Others by Being Simple

Meeting new people is a feeling-out process. Those we meet for the first time typically witness a filtered, and small, sample of what we’re all about. We never want to appear too drastic in the portrayal of our image when we first meet somebody. You wouldn’t want to scare anyone away with your more extreme behaviors, thereby you may filter those behaviors out until others get to know you a little better. Just as others attempt to get to know you, you’ll attempt to figure them out too. Like yourself, they’ll present a filtered version of who they really are....

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How to Handle Those Who Are Protective of What They’re Good At

Becoming skilled in a particular craft is a tiresome journey. As we try to improve our skills in any field that we pursue, we become victims of doubt from ourselves and others watching on. Moving past the insufficient levels of support and competitive anxiety (among other challenges) toward becoming skilled in a particular domain entices people to be protective of the ranking they achieve within it. Ranking can mean having numerous rental properties to earn a healthy income, or becoming a skilled billiards player. Have you ever tried to challenge – directly or indirectly – someone in the craft they’ve chosen...

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How Helping Newcomers Succeed Increases Your Influence

The position you attain by way of the daily grind will be precious to you. Whether your goal is to become a vice president of a corporation, a headlining comedian, or the editor-in-chief of a local newspaper, you’ll need to put in years of consistent hard work. You’ll be expected to compete and come out victorious time and time again. You’ll win over many on your way to your desired destination, and will inevitably take some losses too. The competitive realms of life may breed a naturally aggressive mentality toward newcomers in your domain. They will be younger, fitter, smarter,...

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How to Influence Like Marlon Brando

Despite being one of Hollywood’s most popular leading men for numerous decades, Marlon Brando had an uncanny ability to surprise his interviewers – as well as listeners – with his introspective and humble ways of speaking. Living up to, and exceeding, the expectations he carried with him is a difficult thing to do. People idolize and respect Hollywood superstars before they begin speaking and showing their true colors. Being able to live up to those expectations as well as provide substance and perhaps some lessons along the way is an ability that one should study and implement for themselves....

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How to Ask Questions Which Make People Like You

You can say just as much with the questions you ask as you can with straightforward statements. The questions that people ask often speak to us in an implicit manner, while the statements that they make manifest themselves in more explicit ways. We’re written about why implicit speaking is almost always more effective than sending explicit messages, and you should give it a read. With that being established, you should learn how to use the implicit nature of sending messages through the questions you ask in effective ways.  Recognizing Implicit Messages in Others’ Questions  Remember that time you were asked...

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Why You Shouldn’t Benefit off Others’ Vulnerable States

In an effort to be memorable, we have to place ourselves in vulnerable positions. The jokes you perform will leave you in a vulnerable state until laughter from the crowd validates your creativity. The heartfelt speech you deliver leaves you vulnerable to others’ interpretation. Will your passion be interpreted as coming from a place of love or hate? Will your tone be interpreted as soothing or harsh? Will a word you don’t think twice about when speaking get you in trouble with those whose outlook differs from yours? Moments within which we find ourselves vulnerable are sensitive. When we...

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Why You Shouldn’t Hint at Things You’re Not Willing to Say Directly

A bad social habit is one of hinting at painful truths but not willing to say them directly and in full. On the journey where our thoughts turn into words, ideas get compressed and edited. While on their way from our mind into the world, we sometimes realize our blunt ideas wouldn’t sound so good being voiced into the world around us. The setting plays a role in whether our ideas would sound good unedited, but there are some ideas which are not appropriate to voice under most circumstances. The thinker is therefore left with limited options to expel...

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