There are people out there who are competitive at all costs. Anything that you do around them will be met with a challenge, and you will be thrown into competition without expressed agreement. Success today is defined as being built on an ultra-competitive mindset and utmost dedication to your craft. These traits are positive influences toward reaching your goals, but a life filled with competitors who are copies of one another is a life filled with altercation and deception.
There are cons to being ultra-competitive, and the fact that you aim to win at all things in life does not make you a winner at life. Your competitive spirit should have a direct focus, and not be a wide-ranging, all encompassing trait. You must know who to compete against, what to compete for, and what constitutes victory. The people who do not have these things defined are dangerous, as they will do anything to win short-term conjured up competitions which you did not know you were participating in. These people will suck your energy for the feeling of victory, and you must recognize ultra-competitors early.
The main tactic of ultra-competitive people is to entice you into competition they know they have an advantage in. They feed off of others to better themselves and do not have an instinct of self-improvement, but rather have an instinct of improving over others. If you live, work, or go to school with people like this, it creates a miserable experience for you. Below are some methods to disarm ultra-competitors in order to achieve your goals uninterrupted by the pursuit of others.
Create Competitions Which Distract
There are things we like doing which we prefer not to always be on edge about and compete in. Things like going to the gym, enjoying a yoga session, or reading a book are self-improvement activities which ultra competitors can latch onto and begin competing against you in. The aspect of ultra-competitors which they take pride in can be used against them.
These people will latch onto any form of competition, a fact which you can utilize to distract from the things you rather not be thrown into competition for. If you would rather not be thrown into competition for something which you enjoy doing and do not care to compete for, create meaningless competitions elsewhere. Create competitions unrelated to things you enjoy doing in order to entice the ultra-competitors in your life to latch onto.
These faux competitions will easily hook the ultra-competitors in your life, and leave you with breathing room to enjoy doing what you don’t want them competing against you for. You will likely lose the mini-competitions you conjure up in an effort to distract the other person. They will feel their satisfaction in winning against you, but the competitions will not matter in this case.
If you want to gain extra benefit from this, create competitions which benefit you. For example, create a competitive environment with your roommate when doing cleaning tasks. This will allow them to release their competitive juices as well as provide benefit for the greater whole.
Be Unpredictable in Your Behavior
Ultra-competitors latch onto behavior they see patterns in and they try to beat you at those behaviors. If you begin jogging in the morning, an ultra-competitor will start jogging earlier in the morning than you. If you begin baking your own cakes, an ultra-competitor will begin baking better cakes. Ultra-competitors latch onto the behaviors they see others doing in an effort to improve themselves, and they begin to compete against those people.
In order to keep ultra-competitors away from enticing you to compete for things you are doing to improve yourself, you must be unpredictable in your actions. You must limit the information about your behavior that these competitors receive. Do not be predictable in your behaviors, and do not boast about things you do which you do not want to begin competing for. Being thrown into a competition you did not sign up for is not a fun time, and the other party has already won if they got you to compete for something you merely enjoyed doing for leisure.
If you live with these people or see them every day, be unpredictable in your behavior. Do things on different times each day, do not allow these people to see that you may be improving in something which they are not. Be secretive about your self-improvement strategies and limit how much you brag about running all those kilometers or reading all those pages. Before you know it, you will have somebody breathing down your neck aiming to run more kilometers and read more pages.