Being liked and being respected are two different traits which many people confuse with one another. If you seem to be well-liked by those around you, it does not equate to you being respected. Respect is by nature surrounded by hints of positive envy. We respect those who do what we cannot yet do. As much as you want to think that you choose who you respect, your respect is often demanded without any input from you.
The fact that respect can be demanded without any input from the respecter is what makes it different from being well-liked. Being liked cannot be demanded. The people who like you, choose whether or not to like you. Being well-liked can be beneficial in influencing people in your social circles. However, being well-liked does not allow you to dictate anything into reality without acceptance from others.
Gaining respect can be attained through ways in which do not make you liked by those who grow to respect you. Although it is best to be liked by those who you demand respect from, sometimes it is not an option.
The Cat That Nobody Likes
For example, a cat which swats at any hand that comes close to pet it demands respect through violent methods. The level of respect you have for that cat will dictate whether or not you choose to reach to pet it.
The cat has began to dictate your behavior by demanding respect through violent methods. It has gotten what it wants, and does not care if it is liked by you. This is the beautiful thing about respect, you can demand it. If positive and lighthearted ways do not work, you must choose stern ways of demanding it. Respect will allow you to shape reality to what you want it to be, therefore must be taken seriously.
The Act of Demanding Respect
Any person who wishes to achieve their goals must demand respect from those around them. Whether or not they are well-liked should not influence their decision to demand respect. If the goals you are working towards are, in your mind, noble ones which do not hurt those around you, then you must demand the respect that you need to make them happen. If you see that you are not gaining the respect that you demand, you must be willing to go further to demand it.
Violence is of course the end-point in the journey to demand respect, and it explains the psychology of every dictator to have existed. Never jump to violence as your first attempt to gain respect, as it is weak-minded to do so. Your demands for respect must be incremental by nature, increasing in intensity.