Although your children would probably not blast their playlist on the car stereo on the way to grandma’s, you better believe that you wouldn’t be too impressed with what they’re listening to. Rather than being upset at your children listening to inappropriate music, you need to understand what drives them to do so.
It is Difficult for You to Monitor
In today’s western world, children’s behavior is closely monitored by the myriad of adults on their lives. Their language and behavior are policed at school and at home. The chaos that exists within a teenager’s mind therefore has no outlets.
You need to understand that your teenagers are thinking about the things you wouldn’t dream of. Sex, violence, and dark thoughts are consistently racing through their heads. The world around them does not represent what the world inside their minds feels like. Their existence therefore, is a struggle between what they are told to do and what they are driven to think.
With access to information they’re now empowered to relate their thoughts to creative visions of others. Rap music is just one of the creative venues which people are drawn towards. It is difficult for you to police the interests of your kids in today’s climate and attempting to do so will push them to be more covert in their attempts.
This is Where Rap Music Comes Into the Picture
Today’s Hip-Hop and rap music are, on average, full of violent, sexual, and dark imagery. The gangster lifestyle is interesting to those living in peaceful suburbs. It is what your children do not experience in their daily lives. This interest is compounded by containing relate-able topics. The fact of the matter is that casual sex seems enticing to your teenage son, expensive cars serve to motivate him, and violent imagery provides a relate-able outlet for anger.
As much as you don’t want to believe it, your son deeply relates to the music which you find reprehensible. You must accept this fact and not block him from having an outlet for those thoughts.
It is important that you let your teen-aged children relate their internal thoughts to something like rap music. It will not hurt them, it will not turn them evil, and it will not make them partake in violent behavior. The act of you blocking them from from listening to their chosen choices of music will encourage a different outlet for their darker interests.
Be careful of monitoring the behavior of your children, as they will always find methods of expressing their teenage thoughts and desires. It is better for your son to get his fix with rap music rather than taking action driven by his violent thoughts.
Next time you find yourself censoring the things your teenagers are listening to, watching, or saying, be absolutely sure that you are not doing more harm than good. It is beneficial for both them and you if you are open to their interests, whatever they may be. You will be in the know, and your child will not feel the need to hide and exaggerate the chaotic thoughts that all teenagers possess.