Interrupting those who are speaking is a killer of social worth and general likability. You have likely felt the annoying feeling of not being allowed to express your full train of thought during conversations in the past. It is a terrible feeling which not many explore the nature of. Have you ever wondered why you feel annoyed or angered when people interrupt your speech?
The analysis of yourself in those situations will help you understand how others feel when you interrupt them. Understanding and mitigating your effects on others when you interrupt them is essential to eliminating that behavior. You will then begin to take beneficial steps to not make others feel like they’re being interrupted.
Why Interruptions Hurt
In an effort to explore the effect we have on others when we interrupt them, we need to analyze how we feel when we are interrupted ourselves. In general, there are a few factors at play in developing the negative feeling associated with interruptions. Most of the negative reaction stems from being indirectly labeled as unimportant. The act of us being interrupted by others gives us a sense of being worthless to whoever is listening to our thoughts. Our ideas are not taken with the seriousness which we perceive them with when presenting them to the world.
Being interrupted in the middle of presenting an idea of ours makes us lose confidence in presenting our ideas in the future and thereby makes us resent the people who gave birth to that doubt. Being interrupted also hits on areas of anxiety, self-worth, and confidence. It increases anxiety when you speak as you expect to be interrupted. The words you say may be affected in their accuracy and your thoughts may come out as desperate.
Your self-worth is affected due to your ideas being labelled as unimportant, as mentioned earlier, along with your confidence taking a hit for future presentations of your ideas. There are also aspects of being interrupted which give birth to competitive feelings in some, thereby you can begin to have the urge to get into a war of interruptions with the other person. Humans instinctively value what they have to say as more important than the pending dialogue from other people. This creates a cycle of interruptions which is difficult to stop without the analysis of the pain and general lack of productivity which you may be causing.
Why We Interrupt
Apart from instinctively labeling our own thoughts as more important than the thoughts of others, interrupting others is also a manifestation of low patience and self-control. When entrenched in deep thought while thinking of counter-points during conversations, we often get caught on the hook of a good idea and are compelled to voice it as soon as we think of it. This aspect in itself shows a lack of questioning your own ideas before you voice them in to the world. Even if what you are about to say is proven to be correct in your mind, the way you present it may hinder its acceptance. Presenting your ideas through the method of interrupting others makes them lose validity, as it seems like you do not think your ideas through thoroughly.
In an effort to eliminate interrupting others, you need to save your ideas for the right moments in the conversation. See this as maximizing the potential of what you are saying and not wasting any effort thinking of good ideas just to have them rejected due to being packaged as interruptions. You must practice listening to things that you disagree with and only responding when those opposing ideas have come to an end.
You should stop interrupting others in order for your ideas to strike the minds of others with the highest potential. In order for this to happen, you need to develop a patient habit of listening to the full ideas of everyone else around you. Respecting the ideas and values of others requires self-control, a trait which will quickly become evident to your listeners. A self-controlled and patient listener is likely to be a controlled and precise speaker.