How to Say the Harsh Truth Without the Consequences

You might have felt the feeling of saying exactly what’s on your mind from time to time. In the heat of the moment, exclaiming the blatant truth is a romantic idea. We always wonder why the raw, harsh truth gets hidden from everyday conversation and sometimes we feel like changing that fact.

Before you venture on the hero’s journey to giving birth to truth in your world, be aware of exactly why most people shy away from doing that. Harsh truth brings forth harsh consequences, and audiences react in polarizing ways to it. If the truth you say is meaningful to your audience, you will be loved for it. However, if the truth you voice is information which your audience does not care to hear, you will be condemned harshly for it.

How do You Avoid Being Condemned for Speaking the Truth?

In order to minimize the effects that saying the truth has on others’ feelings towards you, you need to be strategic in your delivery of it. For one, truth is always best delivered when people ask for it. If the truth you’re saying was not warranted by your listeners, you must prepare for the unanticipated reaction to it. Let’s analyze two useful methods in delivering harsh truth to your listeners while minimizing the reaction they have towards it. 

1. Make Them Ask for the Truth

Making people ask you to tell them the truth involves the art of teasing them with information. When dealing with a particular topic which you know for a fact to be untrue, you must present your audience with the evidence of it being false. When your audience understands the falsehoods of their beliefs, they will begin actively searching for what truth may be in that particular instance.

If you possess the truth in that realm, then you now have what they are seeking and are more likely to be listened to in a positive manner. Making people seek the truth involves destroying what their beliefs are prior to delivering your truth. Do not understand this as you needing deliver your truth which will in turn destroy theirs. This is a two-step process, which involves you presenting evidence regarding why what they believe is untrue, and only then delivering your own truth to be believed.

2. Make Them Discover Truth Themselves

Another effective way to deliver truth to those you’re interacting with is to make them discover it themselves. This method is by far the most effective one as the discovery of one’s own ideas is much more likely to be positively accepted. Do not let your ego steer you towards taking ownership of the truth which you want them to believe. Your main goal should be focusing on making them believe it, whether it comes from you or not should not be the focus.

Make them discover your truth by asking the very same questions you asked when you discovered it for yourself. Provide the breadcrumbs for them to follow towards the truth and meet them at the end of that breadcrumb trail. Once they see you at the end of that journey via their own actions, they will be very likely to believe what they had just discovered as truth.

Learn the art of leading questions and the way with which people question things. There is always a logical next question after the answer to a previous one has been discovered. Ask these questions in succession and use them as the breadcrumbs to guide someone towards whatever truth you want them to believe.

Book Recommendation: 

The Truth Matters: A Citizen’s Guide to Separating Facts from Lies and Stopping Fake News in Its Tracks



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